Narcissism, my ex-wife vs. my ex-father-in-law's NPD (Grandpa Pete!)

you don't have to know
anything about me to find this video a little bit interesting it's just a little bit interesting you don't have to know any other people involved i have an ex-wife my ex-wife has a twitter account and on that account she makes public statements like the following quote if you have a narcissistic parent or know someone who does you should read this autobiographical piece by rage michelle so that's that's an interesting thing for my ex-wife to say now that doesn't mean that my ex-wife believes her own father is a narcissist no no no we couldn't we couldn't possibly leap to that conclusion and in fact my ex-wife's father grandpa peed my ex-father-in-law he has come on youtube to insult me at great length and to quite briefly insist that he was never diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder to insist that he's not a narcissist so um the article if you click through to read it it's very casually written it remarks on different uh behaviors that people with narcissism stereotypically exhibit they accept zero responsibility they're grandiose they're bullying they're thin skinned yes and they are they are serial liars they lie all the time and above all else people with narcissistic personality disorder they tend to lie about being diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder they will lie about their own narcissism and about their own experiences with the mental health system partly because they find it denigrating and rightly so so that's the article you can read it all if you're interested and now let's hear what my former father-in-law grandpa pete what he actually has to say for himself in the same note he informed my wife that i had been diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder and with narcissistic personality disorder neither of those is even remotely true i'd like to say right now that i've lived a reasonable adult life there are many things in my life that i regret i'm you know during my long life i've carelessly hurt some people i regret those things i make mistakes i try to recover from them but being diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder is not in my history well that may be true far be it for me to call you a liar grandpa pete and far be it from my ex-wife to call you a liar or call you a narcissist all she said publicly is if you have a narcissistic parent or know someone who does you should read this autobiographical piece however there are many many lies packed into that video you made about me pete an enormous number of lies including this bizarre delusion you have that i was trying to destroy your marriage or that i in any way communicated with your wife i never sent her an email and ever spoke to her the only communication i ever had with her was while you were in the room and it was really some pretty shallow pleasantries hi nice to meet you getting to know you immediately before my legal wedding to your to your daughter so what pete did and you can figure this out by watching the whole interview he did which as i say is full of uh invective against me full of really bizarre insults also full of a lot of very thin-skinned bullying grandiose claims um and a lot of lies what you'll notice is that he's constructed a narrative in his head that emails written by his daughter were in fact secretly written by myself that i had written emails or i know maybe imagines i like hacked into her email account but nothing of that kind ever happened so he is attributing to me a rather hyperbolic and exaggerated memory of things his daughter said to him directly in her own voice it was completely clear that was his daughter speaking to him not me and obviously she also just knows things that i wouldn't know when she speaks for herself it's very very clear those emails were not written by me and pete you have you have no emails from me that resemble what you're saying after you made this video i went back and re-read every single email i ever sent you and i actually put them here on youtube so everyone could see what the communication was between us that i did make a i did make a level effort to be a good friend to you pete at a time when you needed a friend at a time when your daughter was furious with you and she didn't want to speak to you at all i actually did my part to try to patch up the relationship and make the whole family unit work a little bit better but yeah the story as pete tells it is not just that he was never diagnosed as a narcissist but also that his daughter never accused him of being a narcissist that she never said to him that she thought he might have npd instead he wants to imagine that i somehow secretly wrote those emails and that i somehow secretly wrote emails to his wife from my ex-wife's email account pete nothing of that kind ever happened shout out to the whole family i mean really people like to disrespect my crew but the fact is that you know my name and i don't know you