Wretchboast: Onision vs. Reality.

miss Ian is like a man washing his face
in blood he thinks she's making his face clean he thinks she's presenting himself as like more respectable and more trustworthy when he's making himself look more guilty you were involved with this girl from age 16 to 18 think about the devastating long-term consequences for her and you shouldn't have to think too hard big o because when you reflect on your own life you've had to weak love affairs that had a devastating emotional impact for you also with every possible trigger warning Edmond stated I do not think the purpose of commentary on an inn can possibly be condemnation I think we have to come here on YouTube from around the world to try to learn something from this example to try to learn something that we're gonna apply to our own lives to our own moral reasoning if we're not reflecting on this and doing something a little bit more meaningful than just condemning the guy well I just say that condemnation past the point of diminishing returns several years ago I come and do a friend sometimes BDSM is a smokescreen for darker aspects of your personal life but more often it's a smokescreen for the fact that you were pouring the middle-aged parent addicted to video games who doesn't have much sex so yeah whatever you have to say about me let it not be that I'm a liar because I am willing to prove two seemingly no end that I'm telling the truth it's one of them things in this world that I hold most sacred and one of the most disturbing things that she said to me is we just had hate sex because at one point it was aggressive and I'm like how could you associate sex and the word hate together we're supposed to be in love why would you call it hate sex there's a reason you feel the way you do we were made for each other you two love pain and me to love inflicting it upon you I don't need a woman I don't need a man I need a piece of worthless trash on their knees begging for more your eyes are beautiful they look even better roll it into the back of your head promise me you won't pass out I want to hear you scream stand in front of the window over there the world should see how pathetic and helpless you are I'm going to humiliate you and right before you lose consciousness I am going to destroy you you're so shy you're blushing how would my teeth in your neck feel maybe I can make your face pale again if I drain enough of your blood Gregory what are you now a vampire we're supposed to be in love why would you call it hate sex unless of course she actually hated me I'm really big on this concept of treating people as innocent until they're proven guilty however in an ins case we are almost never dealing with unsubstantiated allegations because at every stage of his career he has come forward to substantiate the allegations himself even when he is in the course of boasting about his own moral superiority even when he's boasting about his own purity so to speak those very boasts tend to indict him or to confirm in broad outlines what his accusers are saying let's not even use the word accusers what his ex-girlfriend's are complaining about not too long ago I had a poll on my Twitter account it spun off from a discussion here on YouTube you may or may not remember this asking for suggestions for a new term meaning a grandiose claim that ends up making the speaker seem pathetic even in the act of boasting or a boast that intentionally condemns the speaker showing him to be pathetic and his conceit making him seem foolish by taking pride in the same act yeah I thought I thought wretch boast would be the winner but as you can see it was fumble brag that won by a landslide I also have some fondness for ignominy brag I know that would never take off it's just too hard to say wretch boast you could lean into that wreck whereas ignominy brag looks good on paper but not so great for saying it out loud I guess my German audience went for option three there we had a couple other good suggestions yeah but a Nissen is one of these guys with the presumption of innocence is meaningless his manner of boasting about his sex life and even his manner of condemning his ex-girlfriend's his manner of pointing the finger back at his accusers and claiming that they're terrible people it serves to indict and humiliate and embarrass him to a mind-blowing extent I know people who go through rape are far worse off than I am but I I laid down thinking I was with one person and I got up realizing who I was really with and I felt extremely violated I prefer you on your knees on a leash screaming yes master now please this world is made up of two forces me and yang otherwise known as me and my willing servant bowing before me cleaning my feet with their quivering tongue I don't want to blindfold you I want you to see what I'm going to do to you I don't want to sleep with you I want to sleep with Dee you and you wait your turn we all know that freak once had this little harem I feel like this tweet so it approves this if you want so kissing get a girlfriend I'm gonna hit a butt and clothe my way in tea call my white auntie auntie really like a cake I'm sorry I know this is supposed to be really serious and everything but I can't help but laugh at this a lot of the criticism currently directed at Greg initia is focused on the guys many flirtations with and many love affairs with 17-year old girls eighteen year old girls at least one of whom he legally married um but you know there were older women in his history what I'm about to play for you is a clip of him reflecting on the disaster that was his love affair with a 26 year old and it's an instructive example in many ways I'll give you a link below this video to the very detailed very disturbing written account she provided of what that relationship was like I think it establishes many of the psychological patterns greg has that are independent of the age of his lovers independent of the page of his victims he might say but what's most instructive here that I want to draw attention to is this greg has a tremendous capacity for self-pity in reflecting on the long-term emotional effects for him of falling in love and of having an affair even if that affair turn to be short-term okay I don't think his vulnerability is insincere he lies about many things but that I think he's being sincere about he comes out on camera again and again and again and says he really fell in love he really got his heart broken and that this has long-term effects for him in some sense changes the way he feels about himself changes who he is so and so forth why is he so utterly lacking in any capacity to sympathetically extend that understanding to the women in his life why is it hard for him to understand the long-term impact for a girl who first moved into his house when she was 16 years old a girl who started having intercourse with him when she was 18 years old even if in some sense that love affair was short term he knows how devastating it can be for him long-term to fall in love and so on why is he so unwilling or why is he incapable of extending that understanding symmetrically and sympathetically to the women whose lives he has with or without any bad intentions devastated now quite a few months ago I was rebounding I just got out of a pretty heavy relationship and I was not only lonely but desperate as well the deadly combination and I decided to date someone who had slept with over 20 people prior to me 18 men and three women according to her but I overlooked this even though she had over four times the amount of people in her bed than I ever had to be only 26 and 2 I've slept with over 20 people is ridiculous I talked to my mom I talked to my sisters I talked to my friends everybody was saying that it was a bad idea to be with her because in their opinion she was a total [ __ ] she never really had sex for love other than three times which should have been a problem because I only have sex for love she yelled at me when I was crying that she mocked me for having emotions for being in a bad state because I wasn't man enough and of course she goes to sit insinuate that when we did make love that I was forcing her into it that I was pressuring her into it and she didn't really want to that's funny coming from someone who slept with over 20 people that's really funny every single person who has a legitimate problem with me right now who was formerly a friend or a lover was dumped by me that says a lot of good things for all the people who have been supporting me all this time and it's amazing I did not mention this earlier like I did not say hey isn't this funny that all the people I have rejected are pissed off at me because let me break it down to you guys like this I know a lot of you guys have dumped friends in the past or dime significant others and you go through the same thing where they lash out at you and blah blah blah but let me break it down okay if they had such a big problem with me as they clearly have with me now why did they stay in their relationship why did they not dump me because I'm a great guy that's why because I was good to them because I took care of them because I was loving supportive I did a lot for them and then they betrayed me they lied to me or stole from me or cheated on me or did something like that and I said no more I'm not putting up with this that's in game to all the people who don't like me game over I left all of them my love should not be mistreated by people who do not understand it and while I was not very intelligent for not bringing this up shan'er stating the obvious in other words I was at least smart enough to leave some much later than I should have I gave some people way too much of a chance but now I'm learning and now that I've acknowledged this fact I respect myself more than I ever have before I left them for good reasons and they could say whatever they want now but it doesn't change the fact that it was my choice he's bragging about exactly what he should be ashamed about he's boasting about the thing that indict him the most now look let's play devil's advocate for one second here the kindest thing I can say to initiate is I'm willing to believe he doesn't just seek out and prey on seventeen year olds or eight year old eighteen year olds I'm actually willing to believe that you know why because I think most human beings on earth will take whatever they can get and when he says he was desperate and lonely and needy I believe him that part I think is honest I believe that a mission falls into the category of the great majority of humanity in that he will get whatever he can take and he will take whatever he can get and in this case it was a 26 year old woman and another case it was a 17 year old woman and so on and so forth and yeah there are other things that come into it like he's incredibly immature and he spends all his time playing video games so he kind of tends to romance people who are incredibly immature and play video games there were other factors like you know when you're dating women in their 30s pretty much everyone worth taking has already been taken I'm 40 years old if I broke up with my current friend I'd probably be dating women much younger than myself because it's very very difficult to find someone who is available who's 40 years old and unless you actually want to be a homewrecker like unless you want to seduce someone and break up the marriage they've already got you know I'm not into your options are limited so yeah you know if you're single and you're over 40 you end up dating people significantly younger than 40 because that's who there is to be dated but-but-but-but-but Ann is Ian is like a man washing his face in blood he thinks she's making his face clean he thinks she's presenting himself as like more respectable and more trustworthy when he's making himself look more guilty you know a Nisshin whatever the circumstances were that led you to get into bed with this girl at 18 years old and you know as far as I know everything he did was legal immoral but legal the morality is worth talking about the ethics of worth talking but the most damnable thing of all is he slept with her for two weeks behind your wife's back with your wife's disapproval that's been affirmed by all sides there are screen shots between an Sen and Kai he did this shameful thing for two weeks and then you kick the girl out okay you were involved with this girl from age 16 to 18 think about the devastating long-term consequences for her and you shouldn't have to think too hard Big O because when you reflect on your own life you've had to weak love affairs that had a devastating emotional impact for you also that's how love is I mean I think we're evolved to form these deep connections and these deep bonds that are ultimately about pregnancy and child rearing and form tribe and having that kind of trust and mutual reliance that'll last a lifetime and so you end up psychologically scarred for a lifetime and a Nissen you have many faults but this is not one of them you know this from your own experience and you've come on camera and you boom owned it and you've reflected on it at length so dude if you did this thing legal or illegal with this girl from age 16 to age 18 and then briefly for two weeks or something you committed to a relationship with the ER and you were sleeping with her dumping her discarding her at the end of that that is yet a further ethically significant decision you made perfectly legal also deeply immoral that's gonna have long-term consequences for her that you can't imagine and it's with great callousness and cruelty that you do not imagine that you do not care that you use up and discard one person after another and then you come on the internet and boast about it you present yourself as the winner because you discarded them before they could discard you because you feel you're morally superior to the people you slept with and we know for a fact that a nishan is watching this channel I have now had repeated copyright strikes against the channel from an isiand I seriously doubt he's gonna take me to court but he could get this video deleted so thanks for showing up big oh and you know the sad fact is I'm actually a moderate critic of this guy you know what I think the challenge of life on Earth really is deeply flawed imperfect people trying to love one another you know what a 30 year old man married to an 18 year old girl yeah it's deeply flawed it's deeply flawed but you know what sometimes for some people that's the best they can do when you look around if you just get to know people in real life and I understand the 21st century most people just see glittering images on Instagram or here on YouTube you don't really get to know a lot of married couples but trust me most married couples it started off with them getting whatever they could take and taking whatever they could get deeply flawed imperfect human beings struggling to love one another struggling to make it work despite terrible problems problems a lot more terrible than an age gap I'm not willing to come to the conclusion that all age gap relationships are evil I'm not even going to come to the conclusion that all 30-year old men or dating women I don't know eight or ten years younger the more evil I'm really not working from that hypothesis the hypothesis I'm working from is instead that short-term thinking resembles evil I think that being self-centered self-indulgent and thinking short-term is what has terrible consequences for everyone because the real impacts of love love with or without sex the real impacts of love are very long-term indeed and when you have an age gap when one person is significantly older than the other then the responsibility for those long-term consequences to be mindful of them to do your best with all due sympathy struggling with your own imperfections and the other person's the responsibility for really taking care of those long-term consequences it falls more and more on you as the older party in that unequal relationship [Music]