Too Hot to Be Taken Seriously: the Milana Vayntrub Controversy

the grass seems greener on the other
side of the hill if you're in that tiny minority of people who are so attractive or for whatever reason so adored by the public in the thousands that you find nobody can just be indifferent to your appearance and take you seriously for your ideas you may find it impossible to sympathize with the great masses of humanity who no matter how many photographs they put on instagram no matter how they may pose in their bikinis they will receive absolutely nothing but indifference their whole lives long and that great mass of humanity may say to you you fool don't you realize the only reason why anyone is taking you seriously the only reason why anyone is listening to your ideas about politics whatever it is you're trying to be taken seriously for the only reason why anyone is interested in your talents as a comedian are precisely because you are so attractive [Music] done [Music] hey guys frankie jacks here and booty gate is in full swing five years ago she made a couple of commercials and she would either have her shirt untucked like she's got right here or she'd be you know hiding that buttocks behind a set of headphones that are set up on display or they'd short from just the waist up you know whatever not a big deal except when you see this picture here you can tell there's a giant giant booty right there and to clarify for a couple of people who said so in the last you know comments of the last video i'm not saying anything bad about it i'm just saying it's large she seems to be in charge except att att's in charge of what you're seeing they're not letting you see the buttocks they're hiding it they're hiding it and so you can see she's sitting in a chair who sits in a chair the entire time they're doing a video like that she you've never seen lily sit before weird huh look at that chair i think it's got a booty reservoir dug out to hide all that booty there's a negative byproduct of that and maybe it just has to be with being a person on the internet or maybe it's specific to being a woman on the internet but um it's because of your tits and so listen that's why i'm here all of these milk and milkies comments and milk wagons and all of that it hurts my feelings and um it i know um it's just dehumanizing and a little objectifying and sad makes me sad some of you have said to me frank who cares big deal she's got a big bud well it's a big deal because att is trying to hide it only showing her from the waist up or they're going ahead and uh you know putting something covering you know blocking our view of the buttocks oh check this one out black view with headphones why place those headphones there unless you don't want to show her gigantic ass i know that part of what you guys are trying to do is be funny um and like connect to each other and have your community and like get props from your friends but it just really bums me out and i would much rather have like i don't know real conversations with you and um yeah and i guess i'm like continuing to see the comments about the milkers and the milk and you know what um i guess that just is proof that like you don't actually care about how i feel and maybe that's a no [ __ ] moment for me maybe i assumed that coming on here and talking to you would get through and maybe it'll get through to some people how how should a woman respond to so many comments messages i mean just comments now on like how boys and men want to what they want to do to her body against her will because let me tell you i am not consenting to any of this i do not want any of this the photos that have like come out of me that are super cleavagey are like from a pool party i went to in college over a decade ago long time viewers this channel may be expecting me to relate this story to the recurrent theme of fame and microfame the advantages and disadvantages of fame some of us have only the disadvantages and not the advantages but no for me this actually raises a few more profound and interesting uh issues in the year 2020 a lot of people have a sort of mania for trying to control what other people see when they're looked upon and even to control why it is that other people want to look at them what it is they're looking at why they're seeing and it's self-evidently absurd to ever try to control the hearts and minds of your audience be they adoring or cynical be they appreciative or contemptuous or dismissive the woman in this case was a comedian and today nobody's talking about her comedy at least since the recent candidacy of bernie sanders she has tried to refashion herself as a bit of a i don't know political leader um speaking on issues of the day and nobody's interested interviews on politics why are they addressed in there i had a female friend who was in this peculiar category of people whether you think of them as one percent of the population or much less than one percent of the population she was in the category of people um who could cause a large amount of public interest if and when she put a picture of herself in a bathing suit on the internet and she kind of sunk into this mentality that if people found her beautiful there was something wrong with them that she ought to be able to put pictures of herself on the internet and have complete public indifference in response of course the strange thing about hearing someone complain in this way is like don't you realize the vast majority of women and the vast majority of men when they put pictures themselves internet will only and always get indifference and that you yourself one day if you just live long enough into middle age or old age you will also know what it is like you will enjoy this privilege that you imagine of being able to post pictures of yourself the internet and have absolutely nobody tell you that you're beautiful have nobody get excited have nobody freak out because you're so attractive it's a very very strange thing but i can relate this minority of the population whether they're one percent or one half of one percent who have some features whether it's of their face or their body or what have you that you know gets them fame and acclaim and excitement again i shouldn't even say fame i mean this is this is why i wanted to separate this issue from from fame being the prettiest girl in your school is just relative to like 200 other girls you're in school with being the prettiest girl in your class in high school maybe what 15 other girls i was in a situation when i was a language teacher in vien chen the capital city of laos i was not famous there was no fame in this story what so i didn't i didn't have a website okay i had a website i had a website about linguistics you know i didn't have a youtube channel i didn't have a public uh profile like this at a few essays that are written on on the internet stuff about ecology and language research and the humanitarian workers okay i had i admit i had a website okay oh but any case i was i was not famous in any way but amongst the schlemiels who ended up teaching languages in this small poverty-stricken city in southeast asia like what type of men were there there there were christian missionaries uh there were australian alcoholics there were tourists who had fallen in love with local prostitutes and decided to settle down like it was a motley crew of different types of guys you know uh within that circus i might have been the most appealing act on stage and people gossiped about me people really got and unlike the internet you get to see the people who are gossiping there was this woman and she looked 55 but maybe she was just she was aged really badly and she was 45. she looked 55 to 60 and she had no boyfriend and she had no love life and you know she lived a pretty miserable shutting nobody wanted her and so on and of course she she was the woman this is a white western woman she was the woman who was most obsessed with making up these stories about me and gossiping about me and really nasty stuff and during this period of time i i knew this about this woman she wasn't the only one but she was the most motivated to make up stories and again i'm not famous and i know i know i'm not that good looking but it's all relative right who else is who's more worth gospel who's who are you going to be jealous of you can be jealous of the prettiest girl in your class that doesn't mean she's pretty enough to get a contract to be in a soap commercial doesn't mean she's pretty enough to be the next att spokesmodel or any of this crap right um all right you know during this three year period of my life say i had two girlfriends i had one girlfriend that went up for years and then i broke up with her and there was like a six month period where i was single and then i got a new girlfriend and that's it there were no other women in my life whatsoever this 55 year old and bitter teacher who's god's been above me she took a side and gossiped to my second of those two girlfriends in a three-year period and she didn't know this is my girl oh you know he gets with a lot of oh you know that guy you know what he's up you know she was telling this story and like she doesn't even real like your gossip is so completely detached from reality you don't realize the woman you're gossiping to right now is my second girlfriend like you don't know who i've been dating i haven't been dating anyone else in that whole period there was a good chunk of time where you know i chose to be single and kind of get over the the first breakup and you know figure out what direction i was i was taking like you know that woman if you wonder why am i so certain she talked about me this way behind my back um i grew a beard this is the funniest thing okay this is not a young she's 55 or she looks 55 i know old she is right and like i went and met her with my girlfriend my first of these two girlfriends in this this period of time i you know was at this event there were other people around that stuff and you know she starts talking to my girlfriend as if my girlfriend is cheating on me with another man you know it's rare people remember my name and how to pronounce my name my first name is eisel she's like she takes my girlfriend's by and she's like but tell me where where's eisel like does he know you're here she could not recognize me with a full beard and you know again this is in a third world country in southeast asia there just aren't that many six foot three bald guys it's you know there are a lot of other things you know maybe she thought my ex-girlfriend had a type or so anyway so i got to see exactly how this woman operated what her what her mentality was um you know you can choose your friends you know you don't get to choose your enemies no um you don't get to choose whether you are loved or hated you get to choose whether you are known or unknown and when you make that decision to become known to become a public figure you don't get to choose what it is that you're known for right you may choose that you you may choose to be a comedian as this woman did but nobody cares about your comedy nobody thinks your comedy's funny they think you're a beauty icon they think you're gorgeous that's what they're interested in you may choose to be a political figure and nobody cares they think you're beautiful or could be the opposite you're trying to be a serious political leader and people think you're funny be with your comedian the grass seems greener on the other side of the hill if you're in that tiny minority of people who are so attractive or for whatever reason so adored by the public in the thousands that you find nobody can just be indifferent to your appearance and take you seriously for your ideas you may find it impossible to sympathize with the great masses of humanity who no matter how many photographs they put on instagram no matter how they may pose in their bikinis they will receive absolutely nothing but indifference their whole lives long and that great mass of humanity may say to you you fool don't you realize the only reason why anyone is taking you seriously the only reason why anyone is listening to your ideas about politics whatever it is you're trying to be taken seriously for the only reason why anyone is interested in your talents as a comedian are precisely because you are so attractive you don't get to choose why you're loved you don't get to demand to be adored on your own terms you don't get to choose people's motivations for why they pay attention to you why and how people look at you what it is they want to see and what it is they actually see these things are of course outside of our control and yet it seems in 2020 we have this peculiar media we want to believe that we can control this one thing that we can have fame on our terms that we can have only the advantages without the disadvantages well the great mass of humanity is only entitled to share in the disadvantages and the advantages we have none at all um here's how to handle make your milkers your identity once you show people their words have the power to hurt you they'll never stop doing it ah so just so this is actually like showing people my my weaknesses showing people that i have feelings is actually just gonna make people wanna hurt my feelings even more okay if you ask me why i make youtube videos i'd probably say because it's fun and it helps people and it's some kind of creative outlet but in reality a big part of why i'm a youtuber is because i secretly love the money the fame and the social status that it gives me is this cute right now should i just take this off