The Internet Has Zero Empathy for ProJared. :-/
18 May 2019 [link youtube]
Stop calling him a narcissist, stop calling him a sociopath, stop calling him a predator, stop calling him a cheater. It was an open relationship. His ex-wife didn't want him to leave her, and she decided to "destroy" him (i.e., destroy his reputation) when he filed for divorce. If you're reproaching Jared for having a lack of empathy, maybe some of you should consider whether or not your lacking empathy yourselves?
Sources quoted: (1) Amanda the Jedi: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9OS8Mbk4mPs
(2) Pat the NES Punk's channel is here: https://www.youtube.com/user/PatTheNESpunk/videos
He currently has over 74,000 views on the video accusing ProJared of "narcissistic sociopathy", can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sPjOLQIcfgk
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the people who approached him for having
a lack of empathy are themselves demonstrating an unbelievable lack of empathy the challenge is not to have empathy for people you like the challenge is precisely to have empathy for the people you dislike it's not hard to have everything for someone who's your friend who you support you agree with you considered to be morally good precisely what's challenging is to have empathy for someone who you consider a bit bad a bit strange a bit morally wrong a bit compromised that what's what's difficult precisely is having empathy for your enemies few years ago Heidi asked me if we could be in an open polyamorous marriage not just infidelity but infidelity with mutual friend that everyone knew that you went to LA to hang out and be featured on game grumps and then you turn around and have sex with the wife of one of those people commander Holly who is Ross from game grumps ex wife which was like the other kind of later there that's some narcissistic sociopath II and that's the nicest way I can put it uh you know few years ago Heidi asked me if we could be in an open polyamorous marriage I recognize now that this request and my willingness to go along with it was an unhealthy attempt to solve deeper issues that had developed within our marriage Heidi has taken several casual partners and has been in more serious relationships with another partner since 2017 whether done to make her own actions feel justified or because she genuinely believed it would help me build self-esteem Heidi suggested that I also engage with other women Heidi encouraged me to tell Holly that I was developing feelings for her but when I did things change with Heidi she became angry and vindictive and did not want me to see her speak with Holly anymore she called me a cheater and claimed that I was destroying our marriage because of my affair even though she continued to have other relationships with other partners I saw the change in him or maybe that's all how he always was where he just forgot about the friends he knew because well I'm bit I'm bigger than you now guys so why would I talk to you and I've seen that with a couple of youtubers I bring him up as a sample and there's one more I don't somebody know that I definitely saw that in so the type of person that does that in my opinion is a little bit narcissistic at least that you can forget about people like they're like they're nothing that may be slightly sociopathic that they think they can use people until they can anymore they get away with it I never wanted to destroy our marriage and I spent months after that doing what I could to repair it through couples therapy and extensive individual therapy those close to me of witnessed Heidi's behavior towards me on many occasions and have begged me to leave for some time I was many things during this time including embarrass scared and broken but I was never the abuser I made several attempts to leave starting in October of 2018 but each time she refused to let it happen threatening to destroy my career and to harm others if I left despite all of this I tried to end things amicably I helped how do you find a new place to live and pay the initial deposit I bought her car to facilitate her independence I formally filed for divorce on May 13th 2019 and have instructed my attorneys to make sure she receives her fair share of what I earned while we were together so when I see someone get outed for doing bad behavior not just infidelity but infidelity with mutual friend that everyone knew that you went to LA to hang out and be featured on game grumps and then you turn around and have sex with the life of one of those people that's some narcissistic sociopath II and that's the nicest way I can put it uh you know I was just listening to the news about this in the background while buying airplane tickets buying airplane tickets can be quite a time consuming activity for me and what I had already concluded reading between the lines is now stated on the lines pro Jarrod wasn't cheating on his wife it's now been very explicitly stated that they had an open relationship that he did sleep with other people that she slept with other people also that at the time of their divorce he wanted to get divorced and she did not and that she threatened if he left her she would destroy his career which is now exactly what she's attempted to do he filed divorce paperwork and she retaliated against him and tried to destroy him as best she could now there are two things here I find a little bit interesting to comment on number one is the willingness of people to just believe texts meet up on the Internet with absolutely nothing to back it up as if human beings are not capable of lying when they're sitting at a keyboard I had an interview with a quote/unquote legitimate journalist someone who had a degree from a major American University in journalism who was working for Gawker Media Gawker Media was put out of business because they defamed professional wrestler Hulk Hogan true story google it but at that time this is in the last couple of months months when Gawker Media was in in business they got touched me and interviewed me about ultimately a sex scandal that involves me and the juice online you can hear it and at one point she asked me she really didn't do much thinking in advance the interview she said oh well so this story that was made up about you you know having love affairs these are as women you know so where did he get that look what was his sauce that and the answer is simply he made it up it doesn't really have anywhere to go from there it really seemed like the journalist had not thought through the possibility that human beings can just make things up and it's a it's a pretty fundamental part of of life on Earth now there were various things about the story made up about me that were really easily falsifiable like even just looking at how the story changed when he kept you know he kept moving the goalposts he cut jeanss story I pointed out many times that when he first made up the story he had me he was the person who was blacking him he alleged that I was having a love affair with one young woman who lived in Germany and another who lived in Scotland simultaneously while I was living on the west coast of Canada I'd never met either those who have face to face and also both of the women said nothing of the kind never happened and that I had never even said them inappropriate emails both of the women denied anything that happened so one person made up that story and there were some pretty obvious problems with it and then as ever call in order the next story he made up was that I was just sleeping with a whole bunch of women in Quebec there wasn't even so the number wasn't specified but I just you know what she said this amazing sex life in Quebec Quebec is in the eastern part and uh in my whole life I've only spent a couple of days in Quebec that I hadn't been didn't Quebec for years and years and years and I was living on the west coast of Canada which is really very far away there were these kinds of obvious problems but I got to see firsthand just how willing people were you know dad no particular agenda they had no particular reason to hate me but I got to see at least tens of thousands probably over a hundred thousand people who wholeheartedly you know believed in this this set of lies against me just because they they left at the chance they loved to have the the opportunity to harshly morally condemn someone now even if your position is that you think open relationships are evil that's maybe a more interesting thing to meditate on like Pro Jarrod's story I think it is a sad story a lot of people have heard before because he also says they were in therapy that we're trying to make the relationship work and it wasn't working he makes it sound as if their transition from being monogamous to being an open relationship was kind of part of a downward spiral for the relationship rather than being part of how that relationship was thought up off the bat I don't know that that's just seems to be the way it was this guy okay that's a sad story there's maybe something to talk about there something reflection there there are some some lessons learned for that but if you're gonna reflect on that if you were gonna reflect on what's come out about this guy's marriage the the harsh moral tone of claiming that he's a sociopath claiming that he's a narcissist that's that's a really sad really sick response to this and you know there were other lessons to be learned from it too I mean like you know again I I assume even the woman he's divorcing she'll probably calm down later and have a different perspective on all this but again as he tells the story she threatened to destroy them if if he left her they broke up and that's what she's she's proceeded to do and you see just how many willing participants there were different people with different petty petty resentments against him where he just forgot about the friends he knew because well I'm bit I'm bigger than you now guys so why would I talk to you oh well he used to be friendly with me before he got famous and there was the this is this is the the saddest exchange thing I wanted to mention this video the people who approach this guy for so-called narcissism and and and and as being a sociopath etc the people who approached him for having a lack of empathy are themselves demonstrating an unbelievable lack of empathy empathy and lack of empathy it's this kind of weird excuse what we normally deal with is people having selective empathy they have everything for one side only like they have empathy for his wife and not for him they demand others have empathy for them and they don't make any effort to have empathy for the other person um I don't think it's I don't think it's hard at all to empathize of the situation Pro Jarrod just went through so I just photos up for you the challenge is not to have empathy for people you like the challenge is precisely to have empathy for the people you dislike it's not hard to have everything for someone who's your friend who you support you agree with if you consider to be morally good precisely what's challenging is to have empathy for someone who you consider a bit bad a bit strange a bit morally a bit compromise that what's what's difficult precisely is having empathy for your enemies and and not coming out swinging it's anyway look again my first video on this topic was called don't hate Pro jarred hate yourselves I've never understood this 21st century culture of the apology of wanting to make yourself out to be the victim in every situation that's what Pro Jarrod has been doing Chris Brown and so many others like so Chris Brown there's many many years ago 10 years ago beat his girlfriend and his response to this was to try to portray himself as a kind of weak victim and so on I really don't get it like I think pro Jarrod was in a position where he could have just come out and said look I am NOT Big Bird I am NOT the Cookie Monster I've never pretended to be something I'm not again I there are things I criticize about it I think this whole thing of sending people nude photos is [ __ ] I think people should have real relationships whether they're fully clothed or naked I think it's really important in the age of the Internet tell people no you know like decide if you're attracted to someone based on seeing them face to face and getting another personality and you know in real life you'll find yourself attracted to people that you wouldn't find attractive in a photograph and the other hand a photographic very misleading you find a photograph can look beautiful and that's not who the person really is that's not you know that's not the chemistry I think it's really important for people to to cultivate real relationships and you know in your whole life maybe you're only gonna have like ten real relationships maybe we're gonna have five whereas you can have a thousand and ten thousand you can start accumulating photographs on your hard drive but it's fake I think it's actually really important and worth examining that see I mean there are things I disagree with about the guy but you know yeah I think a hope and the 21st century people will stop trying to cultivate this you know harshly condemning thing of holding people the moral standards they never pretended to uphold themselves and on the other hand I hope people stop you know trying to defend themselves by making themselves to be you know the victim Pro Jared I mean if this is who you are if you're a freaky dude who likes dressing up as women sometimes doing cosplay and this is you know and having your open relationship and stuff just say look man when you tuned in to my channel this is not Sesame Street I've never been I've never been pretending to be something I'm not so you know don't judge me relative to some fantasy you made up about who I'm supposed to 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a lack of empathy are themselves demonstrating an unbelievable lack of empathy the challenge is not to have empathy for people you like the challenge is precisely to have empathy for the people you dislike it's not hard to have everything for someone who's your friend who you support you agree with you considered to be morally good precisely what's challenging is to have empathy for someone who you consider a bit bad a bit strange a bit morally wrong a bit compromised that what's what's difficult precisely is having empathy for your enemies few years ago Heidi asked me if we could be in an open polyamorous marriage not just infidelity but infidelity with mutual friend that everyone knew that you went to LA to hang out and be featured on game grumps and then you turn around and have sex with the wife of one of those people commander Holly who is Ross from game grumps ex wife which was like the other kind of later there that's some narcissistic sociopath II and that's the nicest way I can put it uh you know few years ago Heidi asked me if we could be in an open polyamorous marriage I recognize now that this request and my willingness to go along with it was an unhealthy attempt to solve deeper issues that had developed within our marriage Heidi has taken several casual partners and has been in more serious relationships with another partner since 2017 whether done to make her own actions feel justified or because she genuinely believed it would help me build self-esteem Heidi suggested that I also engage with other women Heidi encouraged me to tell Holly that I was developing feelings for her but when I did things change with Heidi she became angry and vindictive and did not want me to see her speak with Holly anymore she called me a cheater and claimed that I was destroying our marriage because of my affair even though she continued to have other relationships with other partners I saw the change in him or maybe that's all how he always was where he just forgot about the friends he knew because well I'm bit I'm bigger than you now guys so why would I talk to you and I've seen that with a couple of youtubers I bring him up as a sample and there's one more I don't somebody know that I definitely saw that in so the type of person that does that in my opinion is a little bit narcissistic at least that you can forget about people like they're like they're nothing that may be slightly sociopathic that they think they can use people until they can anymore they get away with it I never wanted to destroy our marriage and I spent months after that doing what I could to repair it through couples therapy and extensive individual therapy those close to me of witnessed Heidi's behavior towards me on many occasions and have begged me to leave for some time I was many things during this time including embarrass scared and broken but I was never the abuser I made several attempts to leave starting in October of 2018 but each time she refused to let it happen threatening to destroy my career and to harm others if I left despite all of this I tried to end things amicably I helped how do you find a new place to live and pay the initial deposit I bought her car to facilitate her independence I formally filed for divorce on May 13th 2019 and have instructed my attorneys to make sure she receives her fair share of what I earned while we were together so when I see someone get outed for doing bad behavior not just infidelity but infidelity with mutual friend that everyone knew that you went to LA to hang out and be featured on game grumps and then you turn around and have sex with the life of one of those people that's some narcissistic sociopath II and that's the nicest way I can put it uh you know I was just listening to the news about this in the background while buying airplane tickets buying airplane tickets can be quite a time consuming activity for me and what I had already concluded reading between the lines is now stated on the lines pro Jarrod wasn't cheating on his wife it's now been very explicitly stated that they had an open relationship that he did sleep with other people that she slept with other people also that at the time of their divorce he wanted to get divorced and she did not and that she threatened if he left her she would destroy his career which is now exactly what she's attempted to do he filed divorce paperwork and she retaliated against him and tried to destroy him as best she could now there are two things here I find a little bit interesting to comment on number one is the willingness of people to just believe texts meet up on the Internet with absolutely nothing to back it up as if human beings are not capable of lying when they're sitting at a keyboard I had an interview with a quote/unquote legitimate journalist someone who had a degree from a major American University in journalism who was working for Gawker Media Gawker Media was put out of business because they defamed professional wrestler Hulk Hogan true story google it but at that time this is in the last couple of months months when Gawker Media was in in business they got touched me and interviewed me about ultimately a sex scandal that involves me and the juice online you can hear it and at one point she asked me she really didn't do much thinking in advance the interview she said oh well so this story that was made up about you you know having love affairs these are as women you know so where did he get that look what was his sauce that and the answer is simply he made it up it doesn't really have anywhere to go from there it really seemed like the journalist had not thought through the possibility that human beings can just make things up and it's a it's a pretty fundamental part of of life on Earth now there were various things about the story made up about me that were really easily falsifiable like even just looking at how the story changed when he kept you know he kept moving the goalposts he cut jeanss story I pointed out many times that when he first made up the story he had me he was the person who was blacking him he alleged that I was having a love affair with one young woman who lived in Germany and another who lived in Scotland simultaneously while I was living on the west coast of Canada I'd never met either those who have face to face and also both of the women said nothing of the kind never happened and that I had never even said them inappropriate emails both of the women denied anything that happened so one person made up that story and there were some pretty obvious problems with it and then as ever call in order the next story he made up was that I was just sleeping with a whole bunch of women in Quebec there wasn't even so the number wasn't specified but I just you know what she said this amazing sex life in Quebec Quebec is in the eastern part and uh in my whole life I've only spent a couple of days in Quebec that I hadn't been didn't Quebec for years and years and years and I was living on the west coast of Canada which is really very far away there were these kinds of obvious problems but I got to see firsthand just how willing people were you know dad no particular agenda they had no particular reason to hate me but I got to see at least tens of thousands probably over a hundred thousand people who wholeheartedly you know believed in this this set of lies against me just because they they left at the chance they loved to have the the opportunity to harshly morally condemn someone now even if your position is that you think open relationships are evil that's maybe a more interesting thing to meditate on like Pro Jarrod's story I think it is a sad story a lot of people have heard before because he also says they were in therapy that we're trying to make the relationship work and it wasn't working he makes it sound as if their transition from being monogamous to being an open relationship was kind of part of a downward spiral for the relationship rather than being part of how that relationship was thought up off the bat I don't know that that's just seems to be the way it was this guy okay that's a sad story there's maybe something to talk about there something reflection there there are some some lessons learned for that but if you're gonna reflect on that if you were gonna reflect on what's come out about this guy's marriage the the harsh moral tone of claiming that he's a sociopath claiming that he's a narcissist that's that's a really sad really sick response to this and you know there were other lessons to be learned from it too I mean like you know again I I assume even the woman he's divorcing she'll probably calm down later and have a different perspective on all this but again as he tells the story she threatened to destroy them if if he left her they broke up and that's what she's she's proceeded to do and you see just how many willing participants there were different people with different petty petty resentments against him where he just forgot about the friends he knew because well I'm bit I'm bigger than you now guys so why would I talk to you oh well he used to be friendly with me before he got famous and there was the this is this is the the saddest exchange thing I wanted to mention this video the people who approach this guy for so-called narcissism and and and and as being a sociopath etc the people who approached him for having a lack of empathy are themselves demonstrating an unbelievable lack of empathy empathy and lack of empathy it's this kind of weird excuse what we normally deal with is people having selective empathy they have everything for one side only like they have empathy for his wife and not for him they demand others have empathy for them and they don't make any effort to have empathy for the other person um I don't think it's I don't think it's hard at all to empathize of the situation Pro Jarrod just went through so I just photos up for you the challenge is not to have empathy for people you like the challenge is precisely to have empathy for the people you dislike it's not hard to have everything for someone who's your friend who you support you agree with if you consider to be morally good precisely what's challenging is to have empathy for someone who you consider a bit bad a bit strange a bit morally a bit compromise that what's what's difficult precisely is having empathy for your enemies and and not coming out swinging it's anyway look again my first video on this topic was called don't hate Pro jarred hate yourselves I've never understood this 21st century culture of the apology of wanting to make yourself out to be the victim in every situation that's what Pro Jarrod has been doing Chris Brown and so many others like so Chris Brown there's many many years ago 10 years ago beat his girlfriend and his response to this was to try to portray himself as a kind of weak victim and so on I really don't get it like I think pro Jarrod was in a position where he could have just come out and said look I am NOT Big Bird I am NOT the Cookie Monster I've never pretended to be something I'm not again I there are things I criticize about it I think this whole thing of sending people nude photos is [ __ ] I think people should have real relationships whether they're fully clothed or naked I think it's really important in the age of the Internet tell people no you know like decide if you're attracted to someone based on seeing them face to face and getting another personality and you know in real life you'll find yourself attracted to people that you wouldn't find attractive in a photograph and the other hand a photographic very misleading you find a photograph can look beautiful and that's not who the person really is that's not you know that's not the chemistry I think it's really important for people to to cultivate real relationships and you know in your whole life maybe you're only gonna have like ten real relationships maybe we're gonna have five whereas you can have a thousand and ten thousand you can start accumulating photographs on your hard drive but it's fake I think it's actually really important and worth examining that see I mean there are things I disagree with about the guy but you know yeah I think a hope and the 21st century people will stop trying to cultivate this you know harshly condemning thing of holding people the moral standards they never pretended to uphold themselves and on the other hand I hope people stop you know trying to defend themselves by making themselves to be you know the victim Pro Jared I mean if this is who you are if you're a freaky dude who likes dressing up as women sometimes doing cosplay and this is you know and having your open relationship and stuff just say look man when you tuned in to my channel this is not Sesame Street I've never been I've never been pretending to be something I'm not so you know don't judge me relative to some fantasy you made up about who I'm supposed to 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