James Aspey BROKE UP with Carly Taylor! ("James & Carly" no more!)

if you visited James aspies YouTube
channel you will have noticed something quite peculiar the channel is now called James ass B and for many years the name of that YouTube channel was James and Carly what began as James aspies one-man mission to rid the world of factory farming and cruelty to animals and fur wearing hoe [ __ ] became a man and his woman taking first-class airplane tickets around the world on permanent vacation windsurfing jet skiing and above all else playing the ukulele while repeating over and over again the same simple message about Venus but it seems that the dream team became a nightmare and the James and Carly have in fact broken up and if not today then like within the last 48 or 72 hours quite quite recently if you go over to their Instagram pages where there were once little red heart emojis indicating that they were in love with one another providing a link from one channel of the other the heart emojis are gone the links are gone there are changes afoot I noticed that the description for James aspies channel he hasn't gotten around to changing yet I also haven't changed the description for my channel like five years it's annoying to click through it still refers to them as we there but I'm guessing I'm guessing soon enough these traces of the partnership between James and Carly will soon disappear there was a time when I was doing humanitarian work in Thailand Laos Cambodia I was even applying for work in Myanmar and when I say doing humanitarian work if you're not a wealthy person that means that you spend much more of your time worrying about where your next gig is gonna come from applying for your next gig looking for the opportunity to do and work rather than actually doing it if you're a wealthy person you can set up your own foundation you can be your own employee or what have you lots of options but I was trying to do humanitarian work while having no money of my own which is very precarious sort of business and I met a woman much younger than myself and she had never gone to university she basically went straight out of high school into running her own humanitarian foundation she's an amazing accomplishment and she was not born wealthy now I forget after high school I think she did just a one-year college program but in English this is slippery not University but she did high school plus I think just one year and at some kind of technical school this was important to her story her father was a lowly factory worker and she told me in some detail that her family was if not poor struggling to just barely be a part of the middle class but when she finished school she stayed in touch with all of her classmates and many of her friends from high school were wealthy people with wealthy families and she put on a series of inspirational presentations with a slideshow describing what she wanted to do in Cambodia how much it would cost what the outcomes were and she gathered the donation from this social network in the old-fashioned sense of the social network she put the money together she put the perspectives together she did all the paperwork she formally incorporated a charity in her home town and then set up the foundation in Cambodia and opened a bank account for it and she was in business part of the magic of this is if you can get just five thousand dollars in donations that would disappear in New York City or Los Angeles but five thousand dollars could last a long long time in Cambodia you get a lot of work done and you get a lot of good done with feathers notice she was interesting character and I'm really leaving out some of the most amusing anecdotes connected to this this woman who was briefly a character in my life [Music] some threats made with a machete that broke out and I'll always remember so you know I could speak Thai and lotion at that time more more lotion than Thai but I remember going to the going to the police station to give an account of what had happened involving this machete and so on and they asked what why why were these men fighting what was the origin of the conflict or something and I managed to say in Thai there's a young woman who lived upstairs her skin was whiter than snow and the policemen all sitting around they hope they all smiled hell yeah that was well put yeah that was a well put two coats that had a literary touch in yours David nobody got killed I remembered her as being this person who managed to pull vault her career going like straight from high school to being the administrator of her own hey you know it had a website it looked legit it had a budget she went to be the administrator of her own NGO non-government organization of Chery every single piece of paperwork the bank account to receive the donations to do all the things that charity hit every single bit of paperwork was co-signed by her and her boyfriend all these men were fighting over her the somewhat surreal situation which I met her but she wasn't in fact signal nor was she pretending to be single I guess they fancy themselves having a chance there anyway and when she and her boyfriend broke up as boyfriends and girlfriends so often do everything fell apart and nobody could put the pieces back together again even legally there was no way to carry on but as you can imagine emotionally and practically there's no way to carry on I'm sure it was crushing as a setback when you have someone who's a co-founder of an organization with that like that from day one and then you decide to dump them in many ways you're forced to start a new chapter look I've known many endeavors this kind that fell apart in just the same way I knew a husband-and-wife couple who started a nonfiction and philosophical publishing firm book publishing and when I met the guy who I guess is the CEO he was insisting oh no no it's fine we're divorced but we're still coworkers we're doing we're managing there everything's gonna be okay and just like three weeks later they gave up they don't forget it we can't work I was talking to was I was interested in publishing publishing won't work with them mmm it's dangerous it's dangerous to mix business with pleasure it's dangerous to mix humanitarian passions with you know the type of passions that bind people together on that one-to-one basis and that's soon enough often enough tear them apart I can remember a conversation with my girlfriend and it should be said that was several breakups ago Melissa and I have broke it up back together self that I can remember conversation that girl from where I said no if I formally incorporated a vegan organization and activist organization below no you would not be you would not be involved you'd be involved in the sense that we eat breakfast together probably dinner together of it you're gonna hear about what's going on my life but no you can't you can't do this and most of us a little bit chopped I'm not not horrified but she was just surprised hear me say that and I talked it through this is my standard line of reasoning for many people in many types of problems do that thing that sympathy entails imagine if your positions were reversed imagine if it was someone else imagine if you were the employee in that business and you have two bosses and neither one ever really accepts the others in charge and sums they have a fight as long as they're getting along or sometimes they break up imagine how difficult would be for the other people whether the donors the employees the volunteers for all the other people whose work you're bringing together in that organization if the two people at the top are in love with each other and guys that's just saying love that's not even gonna get to the possibility that love turns to hate rid you know there are a lot of foreseeable problems with the guy like James he is a long long history of drug addiction and drug abuse I'm not making that up he's talking about that honestly and openly omits a large part of his act is talk about a veganism and sobriety changed his life for the better well when you get into bed with a guy like that if you try to run a charitable foundation with a cog that and so on let's just say there are advantages and disadvantages it's not my place to speculate on why James ASPI has broken up with Carly or vice-versa why she's broken up with him but it is my place to speculate on what it means for us sure even what it means for the future the vegan movement and you know these kinds of trite truisms about separating business and pleasure these kinds of you know commonly said phrases in our culture it's kind of they're repeated so often that they disappear into the background noise of our civilization and seem banal but then you have an example like this that brings them suddenly into sharp focus as recently as March 29th James asked me and Carly were photographing themselves together saying they were completely in love and now separate YouTube channels separate Instagram accounts separate careers let me just say I don't particularly believe that the Pope in Rome lives in celibacy I don't particularly that any of the Pope's who've ever led the Catholic faith live in celibacy however however you can imagine just how much more unstable and unpredictable the Catholic Church might be if it were ruled not even by man and wife but jointly by one male and one female who are dating in love going through the various positions of a romantic partnership you can imagine how much more unstable the Catholic Church would be coca-cola corporation would be the Buddhist faith would be any big organization you can imagine how much more stable would be if it were led by a romantic couple dating deeply in love sure as they go through the vicissitudes of romance that may be extremely tempestuous even if it succeeds and let's face it guys in the vast majority of cases romances and in failure [Music]