Men Pursuing Women: It Changes Who You Are. [vs. Based Zeus]
25 October 2017 [link youtube]
ADVICE NOBODY WANTS TO HEAR!
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what is my fundamental objection to the
advice that basis is giving young men my fundamental objection is not that the advice doesn't work the advice can work I think everyone knows that what even if it's one out of a hundred or one out of a thousand or one out of 10,000 eventually his advice will get results for people and for some people the success rate is going to be enough to positively reinforce those behaviors again and again so it's a give an example part a big part of his advice is just walking up to random women at the gym and you know talking game to them well if a guy does that and it works once in his mind that's probably going to justify doing it a thousand more times even if it fails 999 times and then works one more time again it's really easy for me to see how that can lead to a self-reinforcing loop of behaviors and on a deeper level a set of values that changes who you are as a man and that's the side of the equation I wanted to draw attention to in this hopefully concise video okay I can't say that it won't work that it won't get results if you send out nude photos of yourself to a thousand women there there's a whole side of the internet that exists for that reason there are you know there are special websites where that's encouraged but that's acceptable and again I don't know if it works one time out of a thousand or one time out of ten thousand I can't tell you not to do that because it won't work I'm telling you not to do that because I'm asking you to think about what kind of a man you want to be and who you want to become and not even all that long-term I mean today I mean this year I mean just the next couple of years and the type of women you're courting and the way you're meeting them the way you're pursuing them the relationships you bring into your life and what you learn from them that is a big part of who you are as a man that is a big part of who you become okay there's a in a 50-cent song where he talks about he advises his listener don't chase women chase money because when you chase money the women come with it very common sentiment in our society at a very common advice from pickup artists who just say well focus on your career in order to get laid you've got to think that through that's gonna change how you think about your career how you value things how you behave your career that also changes who you are as a man in ways both shallow and profound all right and I just want to throw in a few words here of self-criticism right now and in the last three years I meet women through YouTube I'm in a committed relationship I met her on YouTube if someone who knew me before my life before that said to me hey man you've changed you've changed since you started pursuing women on the end of this way I'd say yes you're damn right I have I'm not even sorry that makes it sound like I'm part of right no I have changed and I'm self-critical and himself aware of that I have changed and you know what before I used to meet women at the University Library I used to meet women at academic conferences I used to meet women at manuscript Oriya and national archives and okay I'm so critical about that too I'm not like saying to you in a simple black-and-white sense like meeting women at the gym is bad and meeting women at an academic conference for cancer research is good I'm not saying that if you go to academic conferences you can see and feel the difference between the guys who are just there for the conference who are just there to present their research just there to talk about their paper whatever it is and the guys who are there hoping to meet a member of the opposite sex or maybe hoping to me remember the same sex the guys who are there looking for that whole range of human experiences from one-night stands to commitment relationships with a lot of gray areas in between it changes you it changes what you're doing at that conference and the way you're doing it it changes whether or not you got your hair and you cut your your suit on point where you go to the Congress sure that's a shallow level but I'm telling you in a falen sense that there really is a difference between the dudes who are who are doing a job who become a lawyer who are pursuing that social status in order to get laid and the guys who have been becoming a lawyer sure to make the world a better place to do human rights law do something else and there were guys doing human rights law to get laid because that's preferred to see people yes this is something that changes who you are and how you're living in all these walks of life it's really easy for you to think you have one part of your life that's your career one part of your life that's your education and a separate part of your life a separate compartment that's your sexuality fundamentally I want to tell you that's just not so you learn a lot and you change a lot given the women you open the door to in your life the women who come into your into your bedroom the women who come into your life the women you share your time with the women your eating breakfast with all that is built into even one-night stands let alone long-term relationships or attempted long-term relationships that maybe don't turn out to be so long-term okay you learn from the women in your life you learn from them more than you want to admit to yourself you're learning whether you're dating shallow ho-bags you met at a bar random chicks you met at the gym or women you met at an academic conference about cancer you're learning all the time you can't turn that off you're changing the type of man you are how you conduct yourself in pursuing women and then what happens after that when you bring those women into your life when you do get laid when the advice does work that changes you in ways you can't fully anticipate you can't fully understand yourself and that's why I find the advice from basis so dangerous it's not because it doesn't work but because it fails to appreciate that your sexuality just like your politics ultimately is a decision about what kind of man you want to be what kind of person want to become
advice that basis is giving young men my fundamental objection is not that the advice doesn't work the advice can work I think everyone knows that what even if it's one out of a hundred or one out of a thousand or one out of 10,000 eventually his advice will get results for people and for some people the success rate is going to be enough to positively reinforce those behaviors again and again so it's a give an example part a big part of his advice is just walking up to random women at the gym and you know talking game to them well if a guy does that and it works once in his mind that's probably going to justify doing it a thousand more times even if it fails 999 times and then works one more time again it's really easy for me to see how that can lead to a self-reinforcing loop of behaviors and on a deeper level a set of values that changes who you are as a man and that's the side of the equation I wanted to draw attention to in this hopefully concise video okay I can't say that it won't work that it won't get results if you send out nude photos of yourself to a thousand women there there's a whole side of the internet that exists for that reason there are you know there are special websites where that's encouraged but that's acceptable and again I don't know if it works one time out of a thousand or one time out of ten thousand I can't tell you not to do that because it won't work I'm telling you not to do that because I'm asking you to think about what kind of a man you want to be and who you want to become and not even all that long-term I mean today I mean this year I mean just the next couple of years and the type of women you're courting and the way you're meeting them the way you're pursuing them the relationships you bring into your life and what you learn from them that is a big part of who you are as a man that is a big part of who you become okay there's a in a 50-cent song where he talks about he advises his listener don't chase women chase money because when you chase money the women come with it very common sentiment in our society at a very common advice from pickup artists who just say well focus on your career in order to get laid you've got to think that through that's gonna change how you think about your career how you value things how you behave your career that also changes who you are as a man in ways both shallow and profound all right and I just want to throw in a few words here of self-criticism right now and in the last three years I meet women through YouTube I'm in a committed relationship I met her on YouTube if someone who knew me before my life before that said to me hey man you've changed you've changed since you started pursuing women on the end of this way I'd say yes you're damn right I have I'm not even sorry that makes it sound like I'm part of right no I have changed and I'm self-critical and himself aware of that I have changed and you know what before I used to meet women at the University Library I used to meet women at academic conferences I used to meet women at manuscript Oriya and national archives and okay I'm so critical about that too I'm not like saying to you in a simple black-and-white sense like meeting women at the gym is bad and meeting women at an academic conference for cancer research is good I'm not saying that if you go to academic conferences you can see and feel the difference between the guys who are just there for the conference who are just there to present their research just there to talk about their paper whatever it is and the guys who are there hoping to meet a member of the opposite sex or maybe hoping to me remember the same sex the guys who are there looking for that whole range of human experiences from one-night stands to commitment relationships with a lot of gray areas in between it changes you it changes what you're doing at that conference and the way you're doing it it changes whether or not you got your hair and you cut your your suit on point where you go to the Congress sure that's a shallow level but I'm telling you in a falen sense that there really is a difference between the dudes who are who are doing a job who become a lawyer who are pursuing that social status in order to get laid and the guys who have been becoming a lawyer sure to make the world a better place to do human rights law do something else and there were guys doing human rights law to get laid because that's preferred to see people yes this is something that changes who you are and how you're living in all these walks of life it's really easy for you to think you have one part of your life that's your career one part of your life that's your education and a separate part of your life a separate compartment that's your sexuality fundamentally I want to tell you that's just not so you learn a lot and you change a lot given the women you open the door to in your life the women who come into your into your bedroom the women who come into your life the women you share your time with the women your eating breakfast with all that is built into even one-night stands let alone long-term relationships or attempted long-term relationships that maybe don't turn out to be so long-term okay you learn from the women in your life you learn from them more than you want to admit to yourself you're learning whether you're dating shallow ho-bags you met at a bar random chicks you met at the gym or women you met at an academic conference about cancer you're learning all the time you can't turn that off you're changing the type of man you are how you conduct yourself in pursuing women and then what happens after that when you bring those women into your life when you do get laid when the advice does work that changes you in ways you can't fully anticipate you can't fully understand yourself and that's why I find the advice from basis so dangerous it's not because it doesn't work but because it fails to appreciate that your sexuality just like your politics ultimately is a decision about what kind of man you want to be what kind of person want to become