For Onision, True Love Means Living a Lie. 😕
16 October 2019 [link youtube]
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it'd be easy to interpret him telling
women you know on the first date sometimes it was literally the first day were within the first week that he was in love with them that he wanted to have a baby with them that they should get pregnant this day he did this repeatedly many different women okay you could look at that as him being lying and manipulative that he's just trying to seduce this woman so he says these things we doesn't mean but of course it's much more tragic if you understand that he is deeply committed to his own form of dishonesty to such an extent that he considers himself to have been truthful not just in the moment but in looking back on it now for instance if person a is dating person B and person C is told by person B that you were not just with person a one of the most honest viewers here but person a told person B and communicated back and forth that it was in fact okay to with person C and person C doesn't tell person a that person B said hey you can't with this person one of the most honest youtubers here it's important to actually confess to that other person that you weren't supposed to with them because they don't know and you wind up being on person B with person a no a lie is something that you say that you know for a fact when you say it that it's untrue there's sense of integrity your sense of justice right and wrong all these morals that you project can't admit when you're wrong can't confess your own flaws there are people who say things you know like hey I'll be there at six o'clock and you're not there at six o'clock that's not a liar that's a person who didn't actually follow through the plans they made because they didn't at the moment know that they want to be able to make one of the most honest you do is here and that's why I say you know I'm honest because I literally think about telling the truth all the time in the moment I'm telling the truth and I don't ever go hmmm that's a lie but I'm gonna say it anyway what's up what are you doing oh my ex-sister-in-law 'aa I just wanted to check out her [Music] you dude okay you act like you wish you married your ex sister-in-law instead of your ex-wife Wow holy Sh you really you really do wish you Wow Wow cutting a little bit a little deep there a lot of you don't even care that you're wrong it doesn't even matter what the truth is one of the most honest youtubers here what does it mean to meet someone and on the first date tell them that you love them what does it mean to say to somebody within say one week of meeting face-to-face that you want to get married you want to have a kid with them initia has a long track record of this kind of behavior and you know I can give him some credit he at least does make fun of himself for it it's not just as various ex-girlfriends and ex-wives who said this about him but you know he does say it of himself with a little bit of humility and a little bit of mockery if you don't really know someone and you tell them that you love them I don't think it's really possible for that statement to be honest or dishonest in a simple sense I mean maybe you're in love with the idea of them maybe you're in love with a fantasy you have about them or even in love with a set of assumptions you know them and guys this has happened to me several times where I have met women and right off the bat they say they want to get married to me that one I've kid with me that they're in love with me one of those relationships turned into my first marriage it turned into my first divorce and you know I don't blame her but of course if you look back at that you know what can you say for either party involved I mean you know you met someone you barely know them you tell yourself you're in love with them you tell them you're in love with them is it the truth maybe you only find out later when you're looking back on what that relationship was now what an isiand lacks is humility and it's the lack of humility it's the megalomania it's the ego mania feel like that makes his form of honesty completely meaningless in what sense can we claim that he's being honest when he tells us as he tells us again and again and again in what sense could he be honest when he tells us that he was in love with every single woman he ever had sex with that he's never had casual sex in his life that he only has sex with women was actually in love with him who he's in love with them on the same level as the woman he married and had two kids with okay so if if that were true if we could believe that if we could treat him as being honest then the whole story of what happened with him and Sara suddenly becomes tragic from his perspective from her perspective or many perspectives because then the story becomes he's a man who employed his 16 year old as a babysitter she hung around and when she was 18 a few days after she turned 18 he had sex with her so what point did he fall in love with her right because he says he absolutely only has sexual relations with people he is in love with and committed to you on that same level as his wife as the mother of his children well you know he made that video in which he insulted the audience and reproached the audience for imagining that he had a sexual relation with Sara he clarified that he absolutely never had done anything sexual with her in the past and he stated that he never would and according to Sara a couple of days after he made that video he did have sex and so it would be much easier to interpret all of this behavior as lying as manipulative as dishonest it'd be easy to interpret him telling women you know on the first date sometimes it was literally the first day were within the first week that he was in love with them that he wanted to have a baby with them that they should get pregnant this day he did this repeated many different women okay you could look at that as him being lying and manipulative that he's just trying to seduce this woman so he says these things we doesn't mean but of course it's much more tragic if you understand that he is deeply committed to his own form of dishonesty to such an extent that he considers himself to have been truthful not just in the moment but in looking back on it now also he can't look back on that you know as I just did with my first wife and say like yeah he thought he was in love or he told himself that he was in love and he told this person that he was in love but really they were complete strangers really looking back at it this is someone he had a few emails with and a few Skype conversations with and then the minute they met and went to a hotel room you know he took the plunge he went off the deep end it doesn't take a whole lot of maturity or a whole lot of humility to look back at that and see a kind of dishonesty even in him telling the woman that he's in love with her and a whole other level of dishonesty of him coming on YouTube and telling the internet that he was in love with her that he's been completely profoundly in love with all these women he slept with some of them were just short-term love affairs and some of them five minutes after he was saying he was completely in love and he'd found the one he'd found the woman he'd spend the rest of her life with he comes on the internet and horribly humiliates these women this is also a pattern and he says he's being honest the whole time that it's not manipulative it's not preventive he's not aware of it he's lying yeah was it the lack the lack of self-awareness that that part I can believe what we want to talk about isn't the difference between honesty and dishonesty but maybe the difference between being overcome with desire and understanding the way things really are with dispassion and attachment anytime grown man tells you that he's got to redefine the meaning of the term truth he's got to redefine the meaning of the term lie that he's going to explain to you his particular definition what it means tell discussions already over you know there's nothing more to debate there anytime someone tells you they're gonna redefine the meaning of the term racism either to make the definition of racism so narrow that almost nobody's race or sometimes they redefine racism to make it so broad that 99% of people are racist there's nothing to debate there the conversation is already over in redefining the terms the person engaged in the redefinition they're revealing to you what their motivations are and they're revealing to you also the way in which they justify themselves they manipulate themselves know a lie is something that you say that you know for a fact when you say it that it's untrue I literally think about telling the truth all the time in the moment I'm telling the truth I don't think anyone alive I don't think anyone including a nisshin's wife or husband laney kaya I don't think anyone believes in his definition of the truth but he has a sense of his own moral purpose that leads him to cling to this notion insist on this notion because it's the only thing that separates him from a lying manipulative scumbag in the same way that a priest in the Dark Ages would find justification by faith alone his justification is that he really was in love of these women and that more than anything else is tragic [Music]
women you know on the first date sometimes it was literally the first day were within the first week that he was in love with them that he wanted to have a baby with them that they should get pregnant this day he did this repeatedly many different women okay you could look at that as him being lying and manipulative that he's just trying to seduce this woman so he says these things we doesn't mean but of course it's much more tragic if you understand that he is deeply committed to his own form of dishonesty to such an extent that he considers himself to have been truthful not just in the moment but in looking back on it now for instance if person a is dating person B and person C is told by person B that you were not just with person a one of the most honest viewers here but person a told person B and communicated back and forth that it was in fact okay to with person C and person C doesn't tell person a that person B said hey you can't with this person one of the most honest youtubers here it's important to actually confess to that other person that you weren't supposed to with them because they don't know and you wind up being on person B with person a no a lie is something that you say that you know for a fact when you say it that it's untrue there's sense of integrity your sense of justice right and wrong all these morals that you project can't admit when you're wrong can't confess your own flaws there are people who say things you know like hey I'll be there at six o'clock and you're not there at six o'clock that's not a liar that's a person who didn't actually follow through the plans they made because they didn't at the moment know that they want to be able to make one of the most honest you do is here and that's why I say you know I'm honest because I literally think about telling the truth all the time in the moment I'm telling the truth and I don't ever go hmmm that's a lie but I'm gonna say it anyway what's up what are you doing oh my ex-sister-in-law 'aa I just wanted to check out her [Music] you dude okay you act like you wish you married your ex sister-in-law instead of your ex-wife Wow holy Sh you really you really do wish you Wow Wow cutting a little bit a little deep there a lot of you don't even care that you're wrong it doesn't even matter what the truth is one of the most honest youtubers here what does it mean to meet someone and on the first date tell them that you love them what does it mean to say to somebody within say one week of meeting face-to-face that you want to get married you want to have a kid with them initia has a long track record of this kind of behavior and you know I can give him some credit he at least does make fun of himself for it it's not just as various ex-girlfriends and ex-wives who said this about him but you know he does say it of himself with a little bit of humility and a little bit of mockery if you don't really know someone and you tell them that you love them I don't think it's really possible for that statement to be honest or dishonest in a simple sense I mean maybe you're in love with the idea of them maybe you're in love with a fantasy you have about them or even in love with a set of assumptions you know them and guys this has happened to me several times where I have met women and right off the bat they say they want to get married to me that one I've kid with me that they're in love with me one of those relationships turned into my first marriage it turned into my first divorce and you know I don't blame her but of course if you look back at that you know what can you say for either party involved I mean you know you met someone you barely know them you tell yourself you're in love with them you tell them you're in love with them is it the truth maybe you only find out later when you're looking back on what that relationship was now what an isiand lacks is humility and it's the lack of humility it's the megalomania it's the ego mania feel like that makes his form of honesty completely meaningless in what sense can we claim that he's being honest when he tells us as he tells us again and again and again in what sense could he be honest when he tells us that he was in love with every single woman he ever had sex with that he's never had casual sex in his life that he only has sex with women was actually in love with him who he's in love with them on the same level as the woman he married and had two kids with okay so if if that were true if we could believe that if we could treat him as being honest then the whole story of what happened with him and Sara suddenly becomes tragic from his perspective from her perspective or many perspectives because then the story becomes he's a man who employed his 16 year old as a babysitter she hung around and when she was 18 a few days after she turned 18 he had sex with her so what point did he fall in love with her right because he says he absolutely only has sexual relations with people he is in love with and committed to you on that same level as his wife as the mother of his children well you know he made that video in which he insulted the audience and reproached the audience for imagining that he had a sexual relation with Sara he clarified that he absolutely never had done anything sexual with her in the past and he stated that he never would and according to Sara a couple of days after he made that video he did have sex and so it would be much easier to interpret all of this behavior as lying as manipulative as dishonest it'd be easy to interpret him telling women you know on the first date sometimes it was literally the first day were within the first week that he was in love with them that he wanted to have a baby with them that they should get pregnant this day he did this repeated many different women okay you could look at that as him being lying and manipulative that he's just trying to seduce this woman so he says these things we doesn't mean but of course it's much more tragic if you understand that he is deeply committed to his own form of dishonesty to such an extent that he considers himself to have been truthful not just in the moment but in looking back on it now also he can't look back on that you know as I just did with my first wife and say like yeah he thought he was in love or he told himself that he was in love and he told this person that he was in love but really they were complete strangers really looking back at it this is someone he had a few emails with and a few Skype conversations with and then the minute they met and went to a hotel room you know he took the plunge he went off the deep end it doesn't take a whole lot of maturity or a whole lot of humility to look back at that and see a kind of dishonesty even in him telling the woman that he's in love with her and a whole other level of dishonesty of him coming on YouTube and telling the internet that he was in love with her that he's been completely profoundly in love with all these women he slept with some of them were just short-term love affairs and some of them five minutes after he was saying he was completely in love and he'd found the one he'd found the woman he'd spend the rest of her life with he comes on the internet and horribly humiliates these women this is also a pattern and he says he's being honest the whole time that it's not manipulative it's not preventive he's not aware of it he's lying yeah was it the lack the lack of self-awareness that that part I can believe what we want to talk about isn't the difference between honesty and dishonesty but maybe the difference between being overcome with desire and understanding the way things really are with dispassion and attachment anytime grown man tells you that he's got to redefine the meaning of the term truth he's got to redefine the meaning of the term lie that he's going to explain to you his particular definition what it means tell discussions already over you know there's nothing more to debate there anytime someone tells you they're gonna redefine the meaning of the term racism either to make the definition of racism so narrow that almost nobody's race or sometimes they redefine racism to make it so broad that 99% of people are racist there's nothing to debate there the conversation is already over in redefining the terms the person engaged in the redefinition they're revealing to you what their motivations are and they're revealing to you also the way in which they justify themselves they manipulate themselves know a lie is something that you say that you know for a fact when you say it that it's untrue I literally think about telling the truth all the time in the moment I'm telling the truth I don't think anyone alive I don't think anyone including a nisshin's wife or husband laney kaya I don't think anyone believes in his definition of the truth but he has a sense of his own moral purpose that leads him to cling to this notion insist on this notion because it's the only thing that separates him from a lying manipulative scumbag in the same way that a priest in the Dark Ages would find justification by faith alone his justification is that he really was in love of these women and that more than anything else is tragic [Music]