Onision, don't date the babysitter. :-/

22 January 2019 [link youtube]


Shout out to "The Blargh". The specific video quoted (as a series of screen-shots) is on that channel under the title, "ONISION Tries to Clarify MAYA Relationship". Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LbgYRCEyVZM

(However, generally, you'll find out way more than you wanted to know about Onision's situation on the Blargh.)

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normal again this was in situation
comedy zooming up you would wait until you were months into a relationship to introduce a boyfriend or girlfriend to your to your kids and maybe not even then right I mean cuz it's hard it's hard on everyone it's hard on middle-aged adults and these are not middle-aged adults with the sole exception of Greg and it's hard like I I said this I don't think I don't think you know polyamory should be illegal I don't think I'm I'm I'm 40 my girlfriend is 26 I don't think age gap relationships should be illegal and we made videos Tyga but is not easy you know we didn't grow up you never watch Seinfeld we didn't grow up watching the same TV shows I can tour it what if when I was 21 I met like a really good-looking woman in her 30s or 40s who has a kid but then there I am on the couch playing video it's you for me as a dude you know that the pressure you're putting on this person it's unfair in a lot of ways and the hardest thing to express the people if you don't know but this you don't have kids yourself I do have kids I have kids singular you know is that in a sense the best-case scenario is the worst-case scenario because the hardest thing for people to deal with is when they form really tight emotional relationships I one day I want to find someone who loves me as much as you love Lainie and love that person as much as Lainie loves you what you have together is magical and almost fairytale like can someone shoot me I wasn't a teenager I was young I was freshly 21 when all that was happening but Billy was 18 Maya I think was 19 I all is a year younger than Billy so she was 18 [Music] I do not think of what I do as a gossip channel and in a very real sense I'm not here to gossip but I am here to try to draw some useful conclusions draw some useful lessons from the oh so public sexual experience of anisia aka Greg and his bizarre three-way by sexual gender ambivalence open marriage now you may you may think Greg's experience as a d-list celebrity in such a peculiar polyamorous gender flexible relationship it's so exotic it's so far removed from the daily lives of the average American maybe not that far removed from the average Australian okayed but the average person who watches this channel I do have big do have a big viewing audience in Australia Australia Sweden and Germany this may seem so far removed from your daily life whoever you are watching this view this video dear viewer they said how could I be drawing lessons here that that that that really matter you and I okay just today I was talking to someone who's a divorced single mom and you know the hardest thing is dating when you've got kids now the opposite we grew up to some extent the situation comedies you happen to watch the movies you happen to watch it's a bit random but it seemed to me this was always a major theme on mainstream television when I was growing up it seemed to me that the message was out there and I heard it loud and clear I I was like the AIDS crisis generation there was a lot of sex ed there were a lot of warnings about accidental pregnancy use a condom or die was like my grade six textbook you don't mean that was really the the peak of the AIDS crisis and some of the hysteria was well-founded and some of it at that time was a little bit over the top but definitely always seem to me a mainstream element of pop culture that was discussed look if you have kids and then you split up with the other parent of your kids you are gonna be in a very very very tough situation and the toughest part to handle of all is the interaction between the new boyfriend or the new girlfriend and your kids right so to me that's that's always been obvious already three years ago it really bothered me that nobody was starting with this I understand people want to focus on only the most salacious elements of the story or they want to focus on the legalities of the story but the legality is not what really matters here and this isn't even a simple moral question of a right or wrong we need some other categories to consider okay first date first date you've literally never met someone before and you sit on their couch and play video games with their with their child that's the first date okay at any age if both people are 30 years old it's bad and it's wrong any gender combination it's a man dating a woman and that's the first date you know he comes and he meets her kids and plays video games the kids sitting on the couch together okay it's a woman meeting a man for the first time okay and to me this was the most outstandingly obvious problem with an ins whole story in situation and he wasn't just doing it once as you guys know he's a serial I don't have before he he attempts to seduce women again and again and again to come into his relationship to play this third party role they like to use the word triad where I come from the word triad has other meanings that's why I say 3 Way of relationship I actually had people writing in to complain about that guess what the word triad is prejudicial as well put Google you'll see what I mean wait so uh it's come in and play this role in the through relationship okay so I'll give a link below this video to two primary source video that's just screenshots it doesn't really matter who I'm you can find out you know all this stuff is all over the Internet um this is a description of one of the young women and say it's still a problem she wasn't young it's still a problem sure but so it was 21 years old it's still apart and one of the women was 21 but yeah in some cases these women were like around 17 18 19 you know there have been people so young that a lot of the gawking public wants to focus on the legality of it okay yeah of course it's more of a problem if it's an 18 year old who can't possibly be emotionally equipped to handle these circumstances I don't know a lot of 21 year olds who are well-equipped look I can relate I mean I think at my gym I think probably the most attractive women are like about 40 we really don't have good thing people are gym that's that where we go but really it is but like I can't or what if when I was 21 I met like a really good-looking woman in her 30s or 40s who has a kid but then there I am on the couch playing video it's for me as a dude you know that the pressure you're putting on this person it's unfair in a lot of ways and the hardest thing to express to people if you don't know but this you don't have kids yourself I do have kids I have kids singular you know is that in a sense the best-case scenario is the worst-case scenario because the hardest thing for people to deal with is when they form really tight emotional relationships with the kids which happens fast when the kids suddenly love and respect the adult you know as some kind of parent or even as an aunt or an uncle or whatever they form some bad relationship and then the adult forms your issue with them and then what that's your first date you know honey nobody knows what's gonna happen what was gonna work out on that second day or third normal again this was in situation comedy zooming up you would wait until you were months into a relationship to introduce a boyfriend or girlfriend to your tier kids and maybe not even then right I mean cuz it's hard it's hard on everyone it's hard on middle-aged adults and these are not middle-aged adults with the sole exception of Greg the one guy who does catch most of the blame for this so I quote this person this young woman got to his house got to be ourselves and Lainey was sleepy so they told Greg they'll say hi to me tomorrow as is a pattern here this young young woman shows up on the pretense of dating Lainey but in reality you're auditioning for this three-way relationship so you're auditioning to be the girlfriend to both Lainey and Greg they is being used as a gender-neutral pronoun here so you show up for your date he says she's too tired go too slowly right so your airplane tickets been paid I mean there are also these elements of you know Fame and money I dress this in my earlier show like you know when you're paying someone ten thousand dollars for their time when you're paying someone's airfare there are other forms of financial inequality that creep in but my point in this video is even without them even without the age gap even with the genders being reversed it's still a problem it's not illegal it's a problem shows up flight paid for Lainey was sleepy Laney goes upstairs you go so she goes to sleep so Greg took me upstairs to a spare bedroom and showed me around the house where he films and stuff and then let me take a shower and stuff and go to bed you can imagine the quality of poorly written stay there guy that's sorry the poorly constructed narrative here we go the next morning I got up got dressed and went downstairs greg was on the couch with his son and daughter and Lainey was near the countertop in the kitchen I just kind of stood there and was like um good morning look you know you're not under a moral obligation to seduce somebody no what what does it take to make someone feel special and it's hard like I I said this I don't think I don't think you know polyamory should be illegal I don't think I'm I'm I'm 40 my girlfriend is 26 I don't think age gap relationships should be illegal and we may be just idea but it is not easy you know we didn't grow up you never watched Seinfeld we didn't grow up watching the same TV shows you know sure there are things to negotiate there are barriers to overcome but you know well that used to do someone making somebody feel special I'm here for you in some ways that's just built into the old-fashioned fifteen dollar date if you meet someone at the bus station and then you walk to the movie theater and you give them their your undivided attention while taking them out for coffee and going to a movie on some very basic level that makes them feel special as opposed to hooking up via Twitter most these cases Twitterverse of them oh yeah I'll buy you some airplane tickets oh yeah okay yeah huh just wander around while we eat breakfast oh yeah they'll be a babysitter now take care of our kids there's something wrong here there's something wrong you're in a really profound way and it's not a legal problem and in a simple sense it's not a moral problem I do think this is immoral I do but I'm just pointed you that's not real easy to judge what's what's wrong so she's saying she's just kind of standing there nobody's paying attention here she says um good morning quote I was kind of having a bit of anxiety though so I just should stood there shaking understandable Lainey was just standing there too so I didn't know what to do their living room is enormous by the way so it really wasn't sure which way to go towards Gregor Laney and so Greg saw it was shaking so he picked me up and pushed Lanie and me into each other or to hug and so we hugged and said hi and then Lainie went to the couch and I wasn't sure what to do again so I followed so okay this is seduction innocence though right if you want to read the whole story you can there's a link in the description this is just another snippet I'm not going to go through the through every detail laney want to change clothes Greg and I played Mario 3d World with his son which kind of bothered me a bit because whenever we would lose Greg would blame it on his son because his son would be sad and he would say well maybe if you didn't do this we wouldn't have all died kid which I thought was kind of harsh to be telling a four-year-old but whatever okay my girlfriend has taken care of my daughter who's now five wish he for when he first met her okay my daughter was very sweet and very loving and very accepting toward Melissa my girlfriend from the first time they met but in a sense that makes it even worse that makes it harder that raises the stakes raises the expectations raises the pressure right this is a first date this is the first date and it's a first date in an emotionally confusing polyamorous gender-fluid through early there there is a lot here and this is a first date with a much younger woman to my knowledge all these people are of legal age of consent as you can see that's not when I'm framing this video in terms of how many let's just say the age is 18 whether it's 17 18 19 20 21 how many 18 year olds do you know who are really able to deal with this kind of situation and like in a sense again the best-case scenario is the worst-case scenario if this teenager comes in your house and just remains aloof and standoffish and doesn't get along with the kids that's easy right but what if they do get along I mean obviously the unspoken element of this here is that all these people are being interviewed for the position of babysitter as well as being a sexual pawn in this love triangle so look us you tell me in the comment section I genuinely lack the vocabulary I can't tell you what exactly is wrong here but I mean I made this video to raise that question and just say yeah something is really wrong [Music]