Rachel Oates: Advice Nobody Wants to Hear.

13 September 2019 [link youtube]


Yeah, BTW, Rachel Oates did write *to* me, and also *about* me, on Twitter, but I never saw anything she said, because she committed exactly the same offense that she endlessly reproached E.O.T. for: she blocked me on Twitter, and then spoke "to" me, knowing I wouldn't hear it. This is, sadly, NOT the only example of her committing the same offense she reproaches E.O.T. for. 🤔️ BTW, credit for the music goes to "Vandetta", found here: https://www.facebook.com/vandettamusicofficial/

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[Music] you do it to yourself you to that's what really hard to do it to yourself just you you were no one else do it to yourself do it to you [Music] let's just say hypothetically he met a younger person told you they'd love to be an actor but they just can't cope with the auditioning process they love acting but they hate auditions it causes them anxiety causes them even to feel suicidal and self-harm the stress the scrutiny the rejection and you know you got to go to 20 auditions 50 auditions get rejected again and again before you find that one rare opportunity to let you get ahead as an actor right you're talking to someone who thinks they'd like to be an actor but they're wrong the people who really want to be actors the people who want to get ahead and theater and film those are exactly the people who can thrive on the rejection they're the people who could get up and go to audition again and again and again and they're hungry for more those are the people who are cut out for this business those are the people who can and will succeed and those the people who will get stronger from failure it's really misleading to articulate this point in terms of either vice or virtue what are the qualities you need to be a surgeon one of them is a particular kind of fortitude when you're faced with blood and gore and human suffering and anguish I don't think that makes you a nice person other thing makes you a good person if you have that characteristic of remaining calm and indifferent when you're looking at somebody's blood and guts to be blunt but you may also be seeing their suffering their anguish etc but that's exactly the characteristic you need to be a good surgeon right or wrong virtue or vice doesn't matter what kind of person can get on stage as a stand-up comedian and entertain people with either indifference or maybe even contempt when the audience doesn't find their Giovanni have a certain kind of reckless self-confidence or detachment you want to think of it where they can get up on stage and get rejected and fail again and again again they still want to pursue comedy doesn't really matter if you think of it as a vice or a virtue but this is a characteristic you need to be a stand-up comedian in terms of who I'd like to spend time with it's probably not gonna be the sort of person who's a naturally gifted surgeon nor the sort of person who's a nationally gifted stand comedian they're all kind of weird and disturbing people to be around frankly probably in part because they have that strange detachment that let them get ahead in their job at an early stage and hey you've got to be skeptical but the extent to which these characteristics may be acquired we will never have a statistic for how many people show up at medical school and feel anxious nervous nauseated and maybe also feel kind of sorrow and sympathy when they're looking at a person who's been injured let's say injured in a car accident lying there suffering and blood and go around or when they're in a surgical theatre observing the process underway person's skin being cut through blood being exposed and so on we'll never have a statistic for how many people show up with those instincts and inclinations and then just overcome them within a couple of years they find they just don't care anymore we'll never have a statistic for a quick easy company stand-up comedians manage to overcome their sense of anxiety their sense of vulnerability their sense of fragility to proceed with a career in comedy but we actually do have statistics for how many people go to medical school and then say they have to drop out because they just can't cope with the blood with the gore with the suffering with the Sorrell and you know what I don't think that makes you a bad person if you're vulnerable in that way if you're fragile in that way maybe that means you have more capacity for sympathy maybe it's in some sense a virtue but guess what this job a surgeon it ain't for you you don't have the requirements this is not a situation of you need to be cruel to be kind this is just an exclusively a form of kindness if you have a friend who's going out and trying to be a stand-up comedian but every time he or she has a bad night at the comedy club they come home and they're self-harming they're talking about suicide they're phoning people up asking them to talk them out of suicide where they're actually attempting suicide don't be cruel to be kind just be kind sit down with your friend and say stand-up comedy is not for you you are not cut out for this you do not have what it takes doesn't matter if you think of it as a vice or a virtue it's just a characteristic you ain't God there are red flags here that go deeper and further than YouTube do you notice that Rachel Rachel Oates she points the finger across the internet to someone who made mean comments on Twitter and she asks do I deserve this do I deserve self-harm do I deserve to be bleeding because she cut herself and to have uploaded this on the internet and to be humiliated because she uploaded herself there is a steadfast refusal on her part to accept responsibility for any of her decisions there's a reason why it's called self-harm because you do it to yourself what can we say to someone who uploads a video of this kind a video of what I would call attempted suicide I don't know where you come from if you slit your wrists or cut your arm open and are bleeding and so on you've just seen her description on screen I don't know why it would be unreasonable to describe that as a suicide attempt you upload a video of yourself attempting suicide then you receive more than $3,000 in donation and this is because you were in a contest contest of the wills with someone else in the internet who in fact already played this same victim card right I mean this is the other irony you say I had to screen a second ago unlike äôt I will never use my mental health issues social issues or so harm as a shield or a way to manipulate my audience right but that is kind of what ended up happening anyway right and you got rewarded for it to the tune of more than three thousand dollars so there's something profoundly unhealthy going on here we're in the year 2019 the internet becomes a kind of fragility Olympics one side of this debate OTE essence of thought said oh well I'm so fragile if this other person says something transphobic or has a critique of trans rights or something then that could push me over the edge into suicide at any given moment it could push me back into self harming and it would be that person's fault and Rachel comes back playing the same victim card and saying that she's spent her whole life also teetering on the edge of suicide also Teeter around the edge of self-harm so she's even more fragile and then pointing the finger at this trans rights activist and saying your criticism of me to quote her exactly quote unquote do I deserve to be so harming do I deserve this are we getting away from the fact that as the song says you do it to yourself you do it to yourself [Music] itself as you you would know what else to do [Music] [Applause] yeah but the most toxic dangerous assumption of all is that you can hurt yourself and blame someone else for it okay I've been through an unbelievably horrible divorce and I've still got lawyers and I'm still in court and it ain't over yet and custody battle over how much time I get a spill of the daughter it's terrible guess what if I commit suicide that's on me an unbelievably horrible childhood nobody can ever make it better screwed up by it in all kinds of ways guess what if I commit suicide that's on me nobody can be blamed you can't point the finger at my ex-wife you can't point the finger at my mom nobody can be blamed but me Rachel Oates you're 26 years old I think you're a victim of the same ideology that leads to all these other people getting on the internet and trying to broadcast their fragility they're broadcasting their fragility to make money and gain social approval I think you're a victim of the same mentality as zoe quinn zoe quinn right now trying to present herself as a victim her ex-boyfriend committed suicide because he lost his job and he lost his job because of comments on the internet zoe quinn made about what a bad boyfriend he was and what car does zoe quinn play she plays the victim card she plays the fragility card he plays the self-harm card she says she's got a therapist and she's teetering on the edge of suicide all the time anyway she says she's the victim and whose fault is it don't eat money now I think you're playing the same game anisia niz playing an isiand to this day presenting himself as a victim in all of his interactions woman an 18 year old girl he'd been employing as his live-in babysitter he gets sexually involved with her they break up he kicks her out of the house she's got to get her own apartment get her own job we have screenshots of accusing her of rape he's a 33 year old man and he was her employer and he's a famous d-list celebrity on the internet but we are to believe that this girl who moved into his house at 16 and left at 18 that she raped him that he's the victim all right we have a discourse that's fixated on fragility and is rewarding fragility and what we need to get back to is the healthy detached discourse about fortitude and the type of fortitude were talking about here it may not be a vice and it may not be a virtue but some people have what it takes to do stand-up comedy some people have what it takes to be a surgeon and some people don't Rachel you produce garbage content on YouTube the only content you got I can respect is your content about makeup I completely believe you've mastered the art of makeup admittedly I'm an amateur in that department however your criticism of the book of Genesis is garbage you're a 26 year old adult woman anyone can find better by going to Google Scholar and putting in a theists critique of the book of Genesis anyone the intellectual caliber and substance and merit of your videos is terrible okay and you've now put yourself in this position where you criticize others of course not just on transphobia and translates it's a very minor issue of your channel you're criticizing fundamental social political and religious issues but if people then criticize you look at the games you play sweetpea quit now because you're blaming others when the fact is you do it to yourself to yourself just you you where no one else do it to yourself do it to you [Music]