Gus Johnson did NOTHING wrong. #NotSatire

we've all argued with significant others right uh towards the end of a relationship we might argue and say something that we regret saying that could be technically verbally abusive but this isn't one argument this isn't one week one month one this is an extended period of time but there's evidence that has surfaced that when uh his girlfriend was getting another surgery later on down the line he was live streaming opening pokemon cards ignoring the fact that she was there in a medical distress situation again and he was instead trying to earn revenue on twitch which is a dumb thing for a millionaire like gus to be doing when your girlfriend needs and wants you but even before that uh gus johnson from what i understand was not supportive at all and literally was just straight up like you know i'm not i'm not [ __ ] doing this like you're not having this baby and like you want me to watch this dude like you want me to watch like this person crying and like talking about this and it's like it's so heavy like this is some real heavy [ __ ] not only was gus unsupportive in the beginning of the in the beginning of the pregnancy even before he knew that it was a ectopic uh pregnancy that like she had no shot but to like absolutely abort okay otherwise she's gonna die but even after that when she does end up getting an abortion he's not there for her and he places his career over uh he placed his career over their relationship over her well-being and it's like kind of [ __ ] up it's not even kind of like it's just [ __ ] up it's very personal very [ __ ] up and that's what uh yeah gus personally [ __ ] admitted to it in a tweet and [ __ ] are still trying to defend him those are in my opinion almost unforgivable narcissistic patterns and sorry to make it about myself but you know i always do that as someone who is raised by two narcissists and someone who has narcissistic tendencies himself that he has to constantly check all the time it's so frustrating when i see some late flagrant narcissist getting away with [ __ ] like this it is not okay [Music] bye [Music] the point of me making this live was basically i realized today that i have nothing to offer a man nothing and i feel like it took number one it took me uh 32 years to realize it because i just found that out today so i was today years old when i realized it and then um it took me a lot of pride swallowing to be able to admit it i'm gonna tell you why i feel the way i feel this is not based off anyone else this is only based off myself but i just wanted to share it just in case it may help somebody else i feel like i don't have anything to offer to a man because a man asked me what i had to offer him and it was the way he asked that made me realize that i don't he simply stated i realize that you're single but tell me what would i benefit from having you as my woman now outside of the basics like oh i look nice i can cook i work i don't have nothing else to offer and the reason i realized that i didn't is because i got to thinking about myself and all i've been doing for oh so many years is just working and taking care of kids i don't know necessarily what i'm into so there there goes hobbies i'm not necessarily sure my feminine level of energy because majority of my relationship i wore the pants so how can you as a woman offer to be a woman to a man if you've never fully been a woman i am a woman because i'm a female but i'm talking about like actually be a woman like to a man i've never experienced that so i don't know what that feels like so i can't honestly say that i have anything to offer as far as a woman outside of just being a woman so that means all i really do have to offer is some [ __ ] because i'm a woman and we have one that's really not enough i can't honestly say i can invite i can offer you a nurturing environment because i'm too frustrated about the children that i have and the lack of help that i have with them so it's like i can't necessarily be so nurturing to you when i'm frustrated at the amount of nurturing that i'm already doing so therefore i know i can't offer you that i can offer cooking for you but then it to me it comes at a price because if you're coming and you're sitting and you're eating by food and you're not providing any of it i'm a filaway so now i'm offering you bitterness that's not anything a man wants why would you want a bitter female well i'm bitter because of my own merits so it's not your job to fix the bitterness it's my job to fix the definition of being bitter in itself a mixture of disappointment disgust um fear and i want to say frustration those are i believe the four main categories that are inside of being bitter a lot of times when a person says that they're bitter a lot of people see negative and that's not always the case you can be bitter for the right reasons and it come off the wrong way if that even makes sense as much as i want a man to come to me ready able to provide work and handle himself i think that me as a female i need to have my emotions in check because if a man wants peace i don't have any because i'm frustrated i'm bitter i'm emotional i'm upset so i made this video because today i realized that i don't have anything to offer a man outside of good looks and i learned that i don't want a man for just his looks so how can i be so selfish and set and and only offer a bare minimum and expect so much that is some unfair [ __ ] i don't know about all these other females other females may not agree or even feel the way i feel but i know me i know the man that i'm i'm looking for and wanting i'm not even half of him so the reason that i'm even talking about all of this is because i watched a video that steve harvey had a while ago um and what he said was that when you're out looking for a spouse you should find a person that is a cup that is the same type of cup as you so if you imagine yourself as a water bottle and this is two ozarka bottles if you meet a spouse that is just a cat and then you're a bottle when you go into pouring into this person they're a cat so that means they can only hold a cap full of what you've poured well if you pour everything you got into them they've only held a capful amount so now it's time for them to pour back into you and all they have is the cat but you're still this whole bottle so you expect this little cap to fill all of you up that doesn't work so now i'm realizing i've been walking around feeling like a bottle where really i'm a cat and i'm out here looking for bottles and [ __ ] are shaped like bottles ain't full of [ __ ] and i have nothing to fill them with so i'm empty and low and these men are empty too and i'm out here mad about it so i had to take a step back and i've just learned this i have to take a step back and look at myself and realize girl you don't even have [ __ ] to offer why you are mad at these men so how about you focus on getting you something to offer a man that would be something that they could walk away from you and feel like you know what i got i can't live without her because without her i can't do this this and this and this because i'm telling you with me you can get you some attitude all the [ __ ] got attitude well i got one of them nobody wants that and with me you can get a baby because i seem to make those but all the [ __ ] do that so what about me is going to be different from this next female i'm about to take the time to figure that [ __ ] out so i just want to share with y'all that some of us ladies may not necessarily have anything to offer a man and we don't realize that because we feel like we're a woman and that's enough but if you want a man to be more than just a [ __ ] then you gonna kind of have to be more than just a [ __ ] the hardest thing for a man to say to a woman and the hardest thing for a woman to hear the hardest thing for her to live with for her to really accept while that relationship is going on is you will never be the mother of my kids and it's [ __ ] up even for people who are committed anti-natalists even for people who are committed child free even people who never want to have kids in their life but it's more [ __ ] up when you're talking about teenage couples couples in their 20s even couples in their 30s where they're in a long-term relationship but the rules of the game are the rules that both sides have agreed to is that i'm never gonna have kids with you because that's not who you are for me there's someone else maybe someone i haven't met yet maybe someone i haven't even imagined and maybe someone i already know maybe someone i'm already thinking about and they're the person i'm gonna have kids with and in our whole culture we pretend this isn't [ __ ] up we pretend this isn't immoral that it isn't traumatizing for everyone involved we use terms like oh it's just casual it's just a casual relationship you do the [ __ ] dishes together you sleep in the same bed you wake up and eat breakfast together knowing that he is never going to be the father of your baby and yeah maybe that's because at this stage in your life or as a commitment to last your whole life you never want to have kids with anyone at all but maybe it's not and when he's looking at you he's thinking what do i mean to you and what do you mean to me all right for that woman what is she to you if she is just the [ __ ] you happen to be [ __ ] but she's never gonna be part of your life in that way you're never gonna trust her to that extent on that level right not all relationships have to be about reproduction not all relationships even have to be about sex you can have a sexual relationship that's not about settling down that's not about raising a family i'm in my 40s i get it but what has become normal in mainstream middle class american society from your teenage years through to like 35 is having very close loving accepting codependent relationships built on a kind of constant subtle rejection in which the other person knows and you're reminding each other constantly you're not good enough you are never going to be the father of my child you are never going to be the mother of my kids and if by accident you should happen to get pregnant you're going to have an abortion and or we're splitting up because the explicitly stated rules of the game are that if that happens you've got to get an abortion because me and you and that kid not gonna happen not the next 10 years of my life no i'm what you'd call a bookish intellectual right there's a there's a kind of academic side of my life it's not my whole life all right i could be with a woman i could be with a very attractive woman where it's clear from the beginning the relationship she's never going to be a part of my intellectual life now on the other hand i could find and be with a very intellectual woman who is never part of shall we say the show business side of my life he's never part of my youtube channel or my creative writing aspirations or my filmmaking aspirations or my book publisher you can imagine maybe there's a girl who's part of the book reading some of my life and not the stand-up comedy some of my life not the show business say my friend you're [ __ ] telling me it's normal in this relationship to fall in love with somebody to live with them to cook their food to walk their dog and pick up that hot poo that comes out of their dog's [ __ ] to live these really [ __ ] middle-aged co-dependent relation tight personal relationships that resemble marriage so much for so many years but we're on a deep level you're saying you're knowing you're feeling all the time there's this other part of my life which is sexual reproduction which is starting a family and that's never going to be with you because you're part of my sex life but not my reproductive life that's a tragedy so common that's become to us in this culture completely [ __ ] invisible [Music]